And the you've seen the CES letter. At that point we quit going and focused on her goals and family bonding. I feel unwanted most of the time but I know he tries to make time. I was with him before I even started college and the past year was especially tough as I am getting more and more busy. They will serve as a constant reminder to her that she needs to conform- and you won't be wearing any. No walking your daughter down the aisle, no giving your daughter away at the alter, nothing but you standing outside the temple waiting till it's over. Be a good influence. I too wish I had researched more in depth the other doc's wives blogs out there - I would have come up with a much more clever blog title. I loved being single, and I love dating him now, but demanding rotations are giving me an idea of what his surgical residency will be like except that I know it will be x I have spent hours and hours and hours on blogs like these, trying to understand if it will be worth it-- worth the very real possibility of losing my identity, of boxing myself in career-wise, of never being in control of where I live, of a thousand lonely nights.
Might be worth working through the missionary lessons and CES letter to see if they can agree at least to disagree. I would think that a comprise between you getting missionary discussions and her reading the CES letter would be even. Welcome to Reddit, the front page of the internet. I too married for love but there's no emotional energy, support or empathy left for the darling wife. Do whatever it takes to at least learn from your relationship with your Mormon crush. Somewhere down the road, you will find another girl who will be a much better match for you.
Until you can believe someone else's beliefs are reasonable, you will not be able to treat them with the respect they deserve. About ten years ago, I realized I needed to quit qualifying my excellent husband who is a better man than many Mormon men I knowI realized I needed to raise my kids to think of him as completely equal to the men they knew at church. I knew a woman who married a man who converted to the church and she spent the rest of their married life telling him he was not good enough.
That is why there are home teachers, friends, family members, neighborsвto provide priesthood blessings. I was spiritually prepared to receive the answer that I sought. Joanna mentioned that our theology is rich with opportunities for second chances. If things get even more serious, try getting her to sign a pre-nup that neither she, nor her family will try to convert you. To me, the core question is, is this person inclined toward self transcendence are the inclined, desirous, self aware enough to be selfless. My family is pretty awesome in the church. Don't spend money on somebody else' Wife. Additionally, you need to take stock of your beliefs and acknowledge they may change overtime. I don't know if I want to be a single mother of four kids. All of which will remind her that she wants you to convert so you can be together for eternity.