Women not only appreciate a giving lover, but they also value someone who is willing to demonstrate the movement, the variation and the endurance they need when it comes to making sure they are not only pleased but exhausted after foreplay. Oral sex for women is a completely different beast than it is for men. While you need a happy medium between hard and soft, fast and slow, suction and licking, what she needs is a balancing act, too. Thirty-four year old Sarah from Nashville says that one of the best qualities of her husband is how he is a giver — without expecting anything in return. For Sarah and for most women, their past oral experiences always resulted in a guy nodding to his member, demanding a tit-for-tat. Why the expert says this is hot: AASECT-certified sexuality counselor and certified clinical sexologist Dawn Michael says many women struggle with the ability to let go when someone is going down on them. Instead of circling your tongue to find her sweet spot or mindlessly fingering her until she pushes you on her to begin sex, try something new: spread her wider and see how she reacts. Curl the tops of your fingers and apply pressure to hit her G-spot. Lift her legs higher, wider or in other directions until you hear her respond.
Here's What She Really Wants You To Do When You Go Down On Her
Use these moves during foreplay—or make them the main event. No disrespect to penis-in-vagina intercourse, but penetration is not the easiest route to an orgasm for most women. What move is more likely to lead to an amazing O? Oral sex —receiving it, that is. Research bears this out. The direct clitoral stimulation oral offers is one benefit; a third of women said that they need this kind of touching to reach climax, according to a study from the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy. Oral sex also results in extra wetness, and then there's the physical comfort of getting rather than giving. No wonder so many women love it—and why their partners love doing it. While you might have a go-to position for enjoying oral, trying new poses can trigger more intense sensations and make you feel even sexier and more empowered.
Oral sex , sometimes referred to as oral intercourse , is sexual activity involving the stimulation of the genitalia of a person by another person using the mouth including the lips, tongue, or teeth and the throat. Cunnilingus is oral sex performed on the vulva or vagina , while fellatio is oral sex performed on the penis. Oral sex may be performed as foreplay to incite sexual arousal before other sexual activities such as vaginal or anal intercourse ,   or as an erotic and physically intimate act in its own right.
Instead of engaging in a spelling bee during oral sex, take some advice from me — a seasoned lesbian with over two decades of experience both receiving and giving oral sex. Communication during oral sex is about more than just moans and heavy breathing though that counts, too! You want to maximize your partner's sexual pleasure, and that means communicating with her before, during, and even after the act.